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The Wizard Behind the Curtain Is “MOM”Tips for Teens on How to Celebrate Mother’s DayBy Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC
This Mother’s Day along with the flowers, candy, brunches, and sweet cards, it may be wise to sit back and recognize the woman you call “Mom.” In The Wizard of Oz, the great wizard was an old man behind a curtain, pulling levers to make the great Oz look magnificent. In most of our lives, the one behind the curtain pulling levers to make everything look great or feel great (including us) is our mom. She has been there since our birth—providing for us, guiding us and trying to do everything within her power to make us the best we can be.
The importance of Mom has not been lost on the United States government. War tactics have even changed to include female soldiers going into villages to talk to the women (moms) to appeal to their sense of educating their children for a brighter tomorrow. The military understands that this will be successful because they know that moms are focused on building communities, families and ultimately want the best for their children.
Pharmaceuticals target moms because they understand women not only take care of their own health, butalso take care of the whole family’s health. If you can teach a mother to eat in a healthy way, you will influence her whole family for generations to come. Being a mom is more than taking care of your child. It’s changing the future for generations to come.
There is an old saying that “the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world” and indeed that is played out in every family almost every day. For the first time in U.S. history, the majority of families are single parent families — and the majority of those are run by moms. She is at the peak of most advertising dollars and most day time TV shows adjust their venues to what will be appealing to mom. Moms are still 100% invested in their children and their children’s welfare, even when they get a scowl from their children because they aren’t being allowed to have the junk food they want.
This year for Mother’s Day, I have some ideas of how teens can make their moms feel really special. There is one premise they must understand as they go through this list. By the time you are a teen, your mom has a deep pride, but also carries a sense of nostalgia with her. She looks at you and remembers how you were as her little baby. That same face you give her at times, she remembers when it had only two teeth. She may feel “replaced” by your new active life and although she is proud that you are growing up into a healthy adult, she wishes she could wrap her arms around you and keep you safe in her care forever. These tips are going to help mom understand that you understand how great you think she is.
Tips for Teens Celebrating Mom on Mother’s Day:
1. Write your mom a letter and list 25 things you love about her. She will most likely frame this and nothing will make her day feel more right.
2. Tell your mom you are taking her on a “momcation”. A momcation is typically a getaway for mom. Since you are busy with your own life, and when you are at home you are talking on the phone or doing homework, planning to get away with “just her” will make her feel special. It doesn’t have to be overnight or expensive. Her momcation could be lunch at the park (make sure you make it), a coffee talk, even just a walk around the block -- anything that gets you alone with mom where you are actively engaging with her.
3. Make her favorite dinner or brunch at home (invite your dad and siblings too or invite her best friend). Moms love showing off their thoughtful teen.
4. If you are the artistic type, sketch a picture, make a mug or a pot for plants. You could write her a song and then perform it for her. Moms watched and encouraged your interests while you were growing up, so they delight in seeing “hints” of the past in what you are doing now. 5. This is the most difficult one, but maybe the most important. If you feel that you have been disengaged or moody as of late, talk to your mom and try to explain what has been going on. No one will ever forgive or welcome your confession more than mom.
No matter what you do with your mom (wizard) on Mother’s Day, make sure you think about what she would like. No one has a mom like yours and what you decide may not be what Hallmark recommends, but it will be what she loves best! Have a wonderful day with your mom.
Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC, is a licensed psychotherapist and co-author with Janine J. Sherman, of Start Talking: A Girl’s Guide for You and Your Mom About Health, Sex or Whatever. Read more about the book at www.StartTalkingBook.com and more about Rapini at www.maryjorapini.com.
Start Talking features succinct yet lively answers, sample conversations, and real life stories to help open the door to better mother/daughter communication. Rapini and Sherman have compiled more than 113 questions girls (and their moms) routinely ask – or should be asking – about health, sex, body image, and dating.