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Take the Anger Test (Sample Book Material)
Press release date: 2010-09-19
Answer true or false to the following questions. Please be honest, not a “lip-service honest,” but fearlessly and searchingly honest. There is much to gain and you don't have to share the results with anyone but yourself.
Anger Self-Assessment Test
T F 1. Ive had trouble on the job because of my temper.
T F 2. I fly off the handle easily.
T F 3. I don't always show my anger, but when I do, look out.
T F 4. I still get angry when I think of the bad things people did to me in the past.
T F 5. Waiting in line really annoys me.
T F 6. I often find myself engaged in heated arguments with the people who are close to me.
T F 7. I sometimes lie awake at night thinking about the things that upset me during the day.
T F 8. When someone says or does something that upsets me, I don't usually say anything at the time, but later I spend a lot of time thinking of cutting replies I could and should have made.
T F 9. I find it very hard to forgive someone who has done me wrong.
T F 10. I get angry with myself when I lose control of my emotions.
T F 11. I get aggravated when people don't behave the way they should.
T F 12. If I get really upset about something, I have a tendency to feel sick later (frequently experiencing weak spells, headaches, upset stomach or diarrhea.)
T F 13. When things don't go my way, I “lose it.”
T F 14. I am apt to take frustration so badly that I cannot put it out of my mind.
T F 15. Ive been so angry at times I couldn't remember what I said or did.
T F 16. Sometimes I feel so hurt and alone that I've thought about killing myself.
T F 17. After arguing with someone, I despise myself.
T F 18. When riled, I often blurt out things I later regret saying.
T F 19. Some people are afraid of my bad temper.
T F 20. When I get angry, frustrated or hurt, I comfort myself by eating or using alcohol or other drugs.
T F 21. When someone hurts me, I want to get even.
T F 22. Ive gotten so angry at times that Ive become physically violent, hitting other people or breaking things.
T F 23. At times Ive felt angry enough to kill.
T F 24. People Ive trusted have often let me down, leaving me feeling angry or betrayed.
T F 25. I'm an angry person. My temper has already caused lots of problems, and I need help changing it.
Scoring: If you answered true to 10 or more of these questions, you are prone to anger problems. Its time for a change. If you answered true to 5 questions, you are above average in your angry feelings, but learning some anger management techniques can make you happier.
Note: There are many myths about anger that may make it harder to change habits and behaviors. There may also be a question as to whether you are a real rageaholic. You don't have to decide if you are a rager or how bad of a rager you might be to take steps toward changing your ways. Most people would be glad to find a way to live a happier life. The principles and techniques discussed in Anger Busting 101 can also be applied to make most marriages more rewarding, regardless of the amount of rage in the relationship. The ABC method helps you develop successful strategies for dealing with people who have had it with your rageful behavior. Good luck!
To learn the basics of the first set of rules, see the other side.
Rising temperatures outside can lead to rising tempers — especially for those prone to angry outbursts.
When this happens, it is important not to resort to Anger, Blame and Criticism.
Instead, try practicing Hightowers new ABCs - Abstaining, Believing and Communicating.
Abstain from these behaviors when you are angry:
# 1. Stop speaking when angry.
# 2. Stop staying when angry.
# 3. Stop staring when angry.
# 4. Stop interrupting—no matter what.
# 5. Stop cursing—completely stop, no matter what.
# 6. Stop name-calling, no matter what.
# 7. Stop threatening.
# 8. Stop pointing.
# 9. Stop yelling, raising your voice, or talking in a mean tone.
#10. Stop being sarcastic. Stop mocking.
#11. Stop throwing things, slamming doors, or banging walls.
#12. Stop all non-affectionate touching.
#13. Stop telling “hero stories.”
#14. Stop sighing, clucking, or rolling your eyes.
#15. Stop criticizing. Stop lecturing.
*As an added measure,
Abstain from these comments:
# 1. “Go ahead and tell me how you really feel.”
# 2. “Tell me when you are angry. Don't let it build up.”
# 3. “We need to resolve this right NOW!”
# 4. “You are always running away. You never want to talk with me.”
# 5. “If you are going to scream at me, then I am going to scream at you.”
# 6. “You are sick and you will never get better. Men like you only get worse over time.”
# 7. “How can you say you love me when you treat me like that?”
# 8. “Go ahead and hit me. I know that's what you really want to do.”
# 9. “You're crazy. The things you get jealous over make no sense at all.”
#10. “THIS IS IT. I am going to divorce you this time. No one is going to talk to me like that.”
#11. “You will never get any better until you go to therapy and work through your issues with your father. That is what my therapist said is wrong with you.”
Excerpted with permission from Anger Busting 101: The New ABCs for Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them by Newton Hightower © 2002/2005, ISBN: 1-886298-04-1, $14.95 trade paperback original, Bayou Publishing, Houston, TX, 800-340-2034, www.bayoupublishing.com.
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