https://www.bayoupublishing.com/ - BookLibrary - Couples / Marital BookLibrary 2017-06-23 16:42:02 BookLibrary Anger Busting 101 https://www.bayoupublishing.com/index.php?option=com_booklibrary&Itemid=2443&task=view_bl&id=1073&catid=62 Authors: 39
ISBN: 978-1-886298-04-0
Publisher: Bayou Publishing
Publication date: 2017-02-07 10:07:23
Language: English
Price: 14.95

 

You may find it impossible to believe that a single book could ever help solve a problem as serious and life-damaging as anger and rage. You may find counseling quite satisfying, but when it comes to the bottom line, you are raging as much as ever. You may have been told that you are going to have to take psycho-archaeology expeditions back to your childhood to discover and piece together the various elements that may be causing your anger problem. That may be helpful or it may be a way to avoid changing your behavior. edit

Some new clients tell me, "I know I need to work through my issues with my mother and father and that it will take a few years." I worry that in the meantime they may be divorced, fired, in prison, or dead if they can't change their angry way sooner. You can change right now.

There are men who want to stop their fault-finding, sarcasm, arguing, self-justification and self-righteous indignation, rage and violence. There are men who do not want to be divorced and lose their families. They want to be able to say, like I have for the last 10 years, "I am happily married and my life is good." This book is for the men stuck in the same jam and for the women who could love them again.

In "Anger Busting 101" Newton Hightower provides a framework for change that anyone can use. The author starts by establishing his credentials - he is not only a professional therapist but has had an anger problem that nearly ruined his life. He tried the therapies that were thought to help but was not successful. In fact, he found that many of the traditional therapies actually made his problem worse.

In this text he goes over the techniques that he found actually worked to change his life. These techniques came out of a whole new approach to anger, this approach is to treat anger as a recovery situation. This brings me to the only item that I had had a problem with in the book. In chapter 3 he discusses how to respond to questions of "why" from a spouse, sibling, or other person. For example, if asked why you got so angry and threw the lamp against the wall then you should use one of the answers given in the text. The basic idea of the answers is understandable as they focus on the angry person taking responsibility for their anger and actions. However, the way they are worded is highly questionable. For example, one response is "I'm crazy" or another is "I'm stupid". Current traditional psychotherapy would say to word it more along the lines of "What I did was a crazy thing to do" or "I did a stupid thing". Taking responsibility for your actions is one thing but taking it to the point of putting yourself down and endangering your self esteem when angry people often already have low self esteem does not seem like a good idea to me. Then again it is hard to argue with the results. From the cases listed in the book and the comments from other people that have used it successfully it does seem to work.

If anger is controlling you in any way and you want to start living a positive and fulfilling life then this book is for you. I would use caution with the wording in Chapter 3 and feel that you could take responsibility without the self-deprication, but other than that this book seems to offer hope to people who have been unsuccessful in controlling their rage in the past. A highly recommended read.


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2017-02-07 10:07:23
The Guys-Only Guide to Getting Over Divorce https://www.bayoupublishing.com/index.php?option=com_booklibrary&Itemid=2443&task=view_bl&id=1098&catid=62 Authors: 36,50
ISBN: 978-1-886298-32-3
Publisher: Bayou Publishing
Publication date: 2016-12-30 13:08:55
Language: English
Price: 16.95


This book is a man's guide to recovering from divorce and starting a new life. Written from the viewpoint of psychologists, the book uses a question and answer format to give men straight advice on how to minimize conflict, reduce harm to children, and start new relationships. The format enables the reader to choose just those sections that are applicable or of most interest. The emphasis of this book is not on legal pitfalls, but on how men can manage the psychological issues inherent in a divorce. The authors give extensive coaching to men in how to begin dating again, the nature of sexuality post-divorce, and making choices that can lead to a successful future marriage.

What about Me?
Practical advice for every man dealing with divorce.


Face it. When it comes to getting your life back together after divorce, most of the great advice out there is geared toward women.  Sure, there’s no end of advice for men about financial and legal concerns. But, what about YOU personally—your adjustment to a new kind of life, your uncertainty about how to start over. Your time has come! Whether you are newly separated or finalized your divorce last year, The Guys-Only-Guide to divorce answers questions from hundreds of men just like you about how to get on with a better life!

From Ex to Sex
(And everything in between—questions guys ask, or should ask!)


This Q&A Coaching Covers it All:
•    The nuts and bolts of starting over
•    Why time is absolutely on your side
•    “Is it normal to feel this way about my ex-wife, my kids, other women?‿
•    Dating again—what kind of woman you should be looking for?
•    Having sex again—when, how much, working out the kinks, and more
•    Getting serious—how to avoid the same mistakes this time around
•    How to go for a good thing when you see it—you deserve it!

Now available from all major eBook retailers including:

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2016-12-30 13:08:55
Loving Matters https://www.bayoupublishing.com/index.php?option=com_booklibrary&Itemid=2443&task=view_bl&id=1083&catid=62 Authors: 46
ISBN:
Publisher: Bayou Publishing
Publication date: 2016-02-24 15:42:57
Language: English
Price: 59.95

This six-tape set is for people who want to ensure that love is exchanged and experienced in healthy and useful ways in the relationships they have. You will learn: Why it is important to love with your head as well as your heart; What true intimacy is and how to achieve and maintain it; How to decide to end a relationship, and much more.


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2016-02-24 15:42:57
Closing Exits - Opening Hearts https://www.bayoupublishing.com/index.php?option=com_booklibrary&Itemid=2443&task=view_bl&id=1163&catid=62 Authors: 46
ISBN:
Publisher: Bayou Publishing
Publication date: 2016-02-24 15:42:20
Language: English
Price: 14.95

 

This two-tape set is based on the belief that our intimate relationships are in our lives to teach us how to love - not how to be loved. Only as we place ourselves firmly in our relationships (close the exits) can we see how to use the relationship for our own emotional and spiritual growth (open our hearts). The second tape is "What Does a Woman Really Want?" Want to find our? You might be surprised what you hear!


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2016-02-24 15:42:20